Why is this the best thing ever?
I'm Jade. I like owls. I also like writing, music, acting, photography, Disney, chocolate, Bollywood, vintage, penguins, Bible verses and California. And fangirling. I do a lot of that.
Why is this the best thing ever?
"You can love someone so much...But you can never love people as much as you can miss them."
will you just... talk about this some?
Sure! This is one of the most-quoted lines from my novel An Abundance of Katherines. Let me begin with some context: Katherines is a novel about a child prodigy named Colin Singleton who has been dumped over and over again by girls named Katherine. Colin is an annoying kid who struggles socially, and he also—like many contemporary teenagers and adults—believes that the most important thing a human being can do is Be In A Romantic Relationship.
Our obsession with romantic (i.e., sexualized) love is really fascinating to me, because I think it is 1. relatively new, and 2. kind of distinctly capitalistic in a bunch of interesting/troubling ways. (Like, I think the romantic love obsession hinges at least partly on us being taught by every advertisement we see that real fulfillment can only be found in a romantic/sexual relationship. Advertisements tell us this because it turns out people are more likely to spend money on items for their sexual partners than for their nonsexual partners, which goes back to like base evolutionary calculations. You also see this behavior in lots of other animals, but right, I am DEFINITELY DIGRESSING.)
So anyway I think one of the byproducts of our obsession with romantic love is that it ends up feeling as if *losing* a romantic partner—the process of missing them—is more intense and powerful than being with a romantic partner, because when you are dating someone, the contemporary culture would have you believe that you are In The Natural State of Things. When that relationship ends, you have been thrown out of Eden and find yourself lacking the one thing that is supposed to make your life worth living, which is of course a far more intense experience than Being In The Natural State of Things.
But this is not the only way to construct romantic love, and in fact you will probably find that no romantic relationship on its own can lead to a fulfilling life and that the vampiric romance novels and Hollywood movies (and to some extent, also the John Green novels) that indicate otherwise are telling you a pleasant and attractive and arguably-corrosive-but-also-arguably-helpful lie.
What Colin must eventually seek is the kind of romantic relationship wherein you love the person more than you will later miss them. (Such relationships do exist. I promise.)
In short, Colin Singleton believed in the validity of that quote in the middle of the novel I wrote about him. But that is not to say that I believe it, or even that the novel believes it by its conclusion.
All that said, novels belong to their readers, so my opinion isn’t that important. If people find something in my stories that they think is true or interesting or helpful, I am always grateful.
tl;dr: Many people (including the character in my novel) think you can never love people as much as you can miss them. I think in the end you can—and must—love others more than you could ever miss them.
Penguin falls down resulting in best sound ever [x]
oh my god
they all gasped like OHHH
IM CRYING IM PHYSICALLY CRYING HE FALLS AND THERE ALL LIKE WHAAAAWHOA U OK BRO AND HE GETS UP LIKE *SIGH* YEAH ITS FINE
I just watched this like 8 times
Don't you think that having two teenagers kiss in a place as sacred as the Ann Frank house more than just a little bit offensive?
I’ve been getting this question a lot. I can’t speak for the movie, obviously, as I didn’t make it, but as for the book:
The Fault in Our Stars was the first non-documentary feature film to be granted access to the Anne Frank House precisely because the House’s board of directors and curators liked that scene in the novel a great deal. (A spokesperson recently said, “In the book it is a moving and sensitively handled scene.”)
Abraham H. Foxman, national director of the Anti-Defamation League and a Holocaust survivor, had this to say: ”The kissing scene in ‘The Fault in Our Stars’ in the annex of the Anne Frank House is not offensive or against who Anne Frank was. What Anne communicated in her diary was hope. She celebrated life and she celebrated hope.”
Obviously, the Anne Frank House and the ADL do not have a monopoly on Anne’s life or her legacy, but their opinions are important to me.
“Never trust anyone who has not brought a book with them.”
Yesterday, during her visit to my home, my younger sister picked up my copy of Landline and examined it. “Should I read this?”
"I liked it a lot, but I’m not sure if you’d relate to it in the same way," I said.
"Was it good like Fangirl or terrible like Eleanor & Park? I haaaated Eleanor & Park,"she said.
And then I sat there with my mouth agape for like 30 seconds.
"I cannot help you."
You should probably try reblogging the original creators of content rather than downloading them and re-posting them. It's disrespectful to the creators of the content and it's misleading to the Tumblr community in regards to who made what. Bad etiquette.
1. You should probably try messaging with an actual identity rather than voicing your concerns as an anon. Some might consider anonymously messaging anyone for any reason to be bad etiquette, not to mention cowardly.
2. I never claim to have made anything that isn’t mine.
3. It would be really fantastic to be able to track down the original source of every image I love and reblog it from the creator, but that just isn’t practical. I see images while I’m perusing the web and often post photos by copying the photo’s URL. I don’t download them myself and upload them to Tumblr, and while I wish the posts linked back to the source I got them from, they don’t always.
4. I have seen many of my own edits floating around We Heart It, Instagram and various other websites without credit and it is not by any means the end of the world. For me, it’s actually pretty flattering to see my work appreciated by others in that way.
5. This issue is about 6703827615378608321274652th on my list of concerns right now. #priorities
Sweet, Sleepy Book Ferret
UMM YES PLEASE.